It’s the difference between waking up before the sun ( or to “beat the sun” as Grant Cardone would imply) and laying around house all day, on social media with phone in hand.
Motivation is the critical catalyst to creating and following through with your goals – so why are we able to commit 100% at the beginning and fizzle out towards to end into old habits?
I think there is a misconception when people choose to actively develop goals – some people are remarkably aware of certain patterns of behaviour that they possess, others have no idea who they are, and let alone why they are doing the things in lives that they are anyway – completely MIA mentally.
I truly believe that most motivational speakers, inspirational quotes – Pinterest photos, and Netflix specials are all paved in good intention for people to aspire to succeed in life, however, there are a ton of misconceptions out there, giving false hope to the quick fix.
When it comes down to it, there are only 3 simple rules to engagement while sustaining motivation for outcomes of success.
WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS ON PAPER..
(Or Microsoft Word if you’re fancy..but print it out, make sure its in your space)
Be specific. Use a time line, be realistic. You’re not going to make a mil overnight. You’re not going to change patterns of behaviour that you’ve had for 30+ years in this universe. Good things take time.
Realistically set 3 goals that you wish to attain in 6-12 months, and WHY you want to reach these goals. Be present, be realistic and understand why you wish to make the changes in your life that you think that you do – not because Tony Robbins was on Netflix last month and you watched the entire special after 3 consecutive 12 hour shifts and everything at that point was life changing… ( been there… but this guy is totally inspirational!!!!)
Don’t get emotional about it – have a clear mindset when you are developing these goals and do not falter.
CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE
Be accountable for you. Your endless self sabotaging patterns of behaviour, shitty attitude and feeling sorry for yourself. Change takes self awareness, self awareness takes commitment, commitment takes accountability for your behaviours – see where I’m going?
You have to work on knowing who you are, knowing what you want – and knowing what you like and don’t like about yourself ( here lies the key to growth as a human being…) – this is where things may get uncomfortable – but remember, here lies self awareness, a quality that you will develop, that will play a key factor in not only your motivation, but connection with others – all key roles in the outcome of success.
A lot of people are not interested in speaking about or being committed to changing behaviours or attitudes because they truly believe that there is nothing to change or work on. They become those “victims” of the world where they place fault on everything else being the catalyst for failure other than themselves.
ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING
You should constantly be working towards being the better version of yourself not only for yourself but for everyone in your life that you care about and love.
Stop the self entitlement, stop playing the victim. Get honest, get uncomfortable and work on purging that garbage in your head. Forgive yourself and move on.
Attitude and how you treat yourself and others is crucial to your future success.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GOOD HUMAN BEINGS
Your inner circle of friends and family are everything. And I include family, because sometimes these relationships can be the most toxic relationships you’ll ever have in your life.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” entrepreneur and motivational speaker Jim Rohn.
Think about that one for a second – you are exactly what you consume, food, exercise AND that includes energy.
Not everyone has to be a saint, they just have to have depth, awareness, be supportive and show you love in the good and the bad. Give you direction when you need it, and encourage you to push through the garbage that life throws at you when things are just muddled and tough.
This is your tribe. I know, because I have one. Love them hard, be there for them as they are for you. Show endless support and it shall be reciprocated. Good humans won’t bring drama into your life – they’ll tell you to end those toxic relationships that take the good out of who you are. They’ll be honest, realistic – and won’t let you deter into fantasy land or victim playing. You’ll continue to reach and develop further goals and successes because these people won’t take take take take take…
Find some good human beings and love them. Embrace them – let go of toxic relationships and focus on being the best version of you for your tribe and loved ones.
And totally get a dog while your at it.. life changing.
Until next time,